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Challenges Week 17 & Third Football Win

May 11th, 2015 at 02:33 am

We managed to get through the weekend on $304 - just, but still did it. Our shopping was amazingly $121 including food for entertaining- it's B's turn to host his poker night, so he made meatballs & risoni for 8. For Mother's Day for the inlaws we had to bring a dessert so I made a double batch of white chocolate cupcakes with white chocolate ganache (one for inlaws do, one for poker do).

Mother's Day gift was $48 for inlaws, mine = $0. My mother has increasingly distanced herself from us and tolerates these occasions. But... I had the inlaws do & accidentally booked a get together with a friend so wasn't enthused about also seeing someone who really doesn't care about it. So I texted her asking does she want me to see her & I know it's not really her thing so I'll let her choose. Her response was father day doesn't exist here anymore (he died years ago) so let's pass this day onto the next generation (my sister had a baby last December). I wasn't expecting that! I was expecting doesn't bother me it's fine, not let's delete this day forever.

So I don't even know why I'm upset but I am. Of course I went on Facebook to rub salt in the wound because every single person it felt like was having an awesome day while my mother was just being a cold so-and-so. Grrr. But the rational side of me is winning. (And a day has passed) She is different now to what she was. That was then, and this is now. These things don't interest her. Family doesn't interest her. It's best to just accept it and try to let go of any negative feelings. Not everybody has the ideal family, and that's life.

Anyway, moving on from that.

A couple of good things. I caught up with an old friend last night who I hadn't seen in 6 months and we had so much to talk about! And still share lots of common interests which is really great! We are aiming to catch up again in the last week of May (unfortunately as well as having lots of common interests, we are both really slack with social arrangements), hopefully it will all work out. She has just moved 5 minutes drive away from me, and is sharing a beautiful house with a friend.

And the final good thing - my football team St Kilda won their third game for the year! By 7 points, so I sent $7 to the EF (So far the points has been 101 + 28 + now 7), and have added it to Banking The Difference challenge.

We had to pay for the 52 week challenge out of our buffer in the account (non-EF), there is now $141.20 there - not good. We are hoping B will receive money this week but I am preparing myself for a possible withdrawal from the EF (which will be as little as possible).

I have to withdraw money from the EF anyway to pay for a subject for my accounting degree, booking closes on the 20th. My work pays me bonuses which I use to pay for the subjects. So I will have to withdraw $1000 but then (unless things change for the first time ever) next month I will get the bonus and put it back in the account.

5 Responses to “Challenges Week 17 & Third Football Win”

  1. CB in the City Says:

    I don't know your mother, but reading between the lines, it's possible she feels hurt and sidelined by your preference for your in-laws. If a child of mine ASKED if I wanted to see him/her on Mother's Day, I would probably take it as a rejection and play it off like I didn't care to save my pride. But as I say, I don't know either of you, just wondering if you should consider this possibility.

  2. rob62521 Says:

    Sorry things didn't work out. Sometimes "holidays" are big pains in the patooties with people getting hurt. Hope today is a nice day for you.

  3. VS_ozgirl Says:

    I don't know about that, she's become so involved with life with my stepfather that I feel like to even talk to her I'm bothering her and she's so heavily involved with the Greens (political party) that I feel like there's nothing we have in common and there's no interest to find anything in common. The only time I see her is birthdays or Christmas or when we see one of my other sisters and she makes it clear she tolerates these events. And then to say Father's Day hasn't existed for a long time (because he's dead), so let's pass on Mother's Day too, makes me feel like she wants to be dead to me. I think I'll think awhile before acting on this, as its such an important relationship, don't want to jeopardise it.

  4. veronak Says:

    Aw VS I'm glad your weekend ended on a positive note, reconnecting with an old friend.
    Hope things get better with your mom, as well

  5. VS_ozgirl Says:

    Thanks Rob62521 & Amber Smile
    CB thanks for your honesty- I thought she wouldn't be bothered but maybe I hurt her feelings thoughtlessly. I think a phone call may be in order.

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